Remember when you went shopping as a kid and you wanted everything in the store? Especially when you got to the checkout and there was all that yummy candy and gum just tantalizing your taste buds? Perhaps your parents broke down and they allowed you to choose one thing. Remember how hard that was?
When we are presented with a multitude of options it's hard to make a decision because our minds are overloaded with data. Why? Because it is attempting to process multiple pieces of information and then having to prioritize each one to find the "best" option. Sweet or sour? Taffy or gum? Chocolate with or without nuts?
Our brains like order. Our brains identifies each item, groups like items together and then assesses each one based on previous experiences. "sour makes my face scrinch up, but I like it anyway). It's a mental process of elimination.
Your "stuff" creates the same sense of feeling overwhelmed. When you have to choose between too many items and when it is in disarray the mind has to go through the same extensive process. This is why - sometimes as painful as it is - editing things out helps us make quicker choices. We have to do less processing both analytically and emotionally. With less, you have already pared down your items to your favorites. So everything you choose is the "best" decision for you.
To your most organized and best self each and every day and finding Peace by Piece.
There's a theory that in keeping everything, you actually create a sense of scarcity instead of abundance? Sounds crazy, but it's true.
I was reading a book about financial independence written by Jerrold Mundis when I realized that the theories he presented about how we think of money absolutely correlate to how we think of our possessions.
One theory is that we .have nothing and that we had better keep what we own. This fear based thought process keeps us focused on the reality in our minds, and not analyzing what the true reality may be. For example, do you really have "nothing" to wear. In actuality, you probably have excess. But because you are analyzing from a fear perspective, or perhaps feeling that others will perceive you as having "less", you are unable to see the possibilities of what you already own and how you might "shop your wardrobe.".
Mundis also theorizes that some people create a sense of scarcity by fearing that nothing better is going to come to them. Again, it repeats the notion that one better hold onto whatever it is (food, clothes, furniture etc) because this is going to be as good as it gets and you better just be thankful for what you have. And to some extent this is true. A little humility is good. But when it interferes with moving forward and seeing possibilities, it can be isolating.
Editing our possessions IS hard. Each one came into our homes for a reason. Maybe we chose it, maybe we didn't. But what if we were to challenge the conversation from fear to freedom? I think we would have abundance beyond anything we previously (falsely) imagined.
To your most Organized self and finding Peace by Piece!
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Sometimes the best way to decide on the best positive is to weed out the negative. It's a fabulous way to look at organizing because the essence of organizing is keeping those things that bring you pure joy. Things that tell the world hey, this is me and this is who I am right now.
A dear friend of mine Jane was going through some of her clothes and was trying to decide if she should keep some old tee-shirts for doing some messy housework or painting. And then the lightbulb went off and she said to herself "I am not a painter". It was an "ah-ha" moment. I still use that mantra for myself.
As you go through your clothes, yes, edit out what doesn't fit, what you don't feel comfortable in or all those items that you simply know you won't wear ever. And then ask yourself if you are:
A painter - do you really paint your house? How many work/cleaning tee-shirts and pants are necessary? Remember they are washable.
An employee - Do you have promotional tee's from a former employer? Think about it - if you don't work there, why are you advertising for them?
:"That" girl - you know, the crazy girl's weekend kind? Yes, the memories were great and you had a blast, but do you want those clothes to define you? Would you want to run into someone with that on?
Your boyfriend's shirt - Quit stealing! He probably will let you take one from his closet if you ask. But you only need one. Give the others back or get your own.
When you begin to see what you are not, you begin to see what no longer belongs in your closet and drawers. But those clothes that are no longer of use to you are incredibly useful to others.By donating, you can feel good about defining who you are while enhancing the lives of those in need. It's abut finding your Peace by Piece.
To your most Organized Self.
So often we are told not to talk about ourselves. When we were little we might have been told that we were to be seen and not heard; that listening was better than speaking; and we shouldn't question authority.
That's all fine and good - except when you are a patient or caregiver. The office visits of today look much different that in the past because you are in the power position.. It all comes down to what you want in your health journey. While this is not to say that all decisions have consequences. Some good, some bad, but it's up to you to make those choices.
Being self centered in your health journey is absolutely not a bad thing. Fortunately care providers are also moving in this direction. In an article by the Patient Empowerment Network, Dr Ronald Epstein, MD and Dr Richard Street, PhD characterize Patient Centered Care Approach as one in which “patients are known as persons in the context of their own social worlds, listened to, informed, respected, and involved in their care.”
Welcome to my blog. I am glad you are here to read the musings on organizing and finding balance in your life. I hope you find them inspiring and motivating.