"Samantha, you remember your little cousin Billy, right? The two of you used to play together all the time when you were kids". (Like when you were 8)
"Remember my friend Judy?" You met her at the holiday party one year (again, like 5 years ago).
Whether you are being re-introduced to family or friends, just remember to relax, be yourself and remember that there is an end in sight. They are probably feeling anxious too. Be honest that you don't really remember them or what you talked about when you met before.
And if you can, here's some tips to avoid these 8 embarrassing conversation and situational possibilities.
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To your most Peaceful Thanksgiving Day.
What's your favorite book? Do you have a special one that you read every year? What was one of your favorite childhood stories? It amazes me how some of the stories we were read have such sweet memories that we so preciously treasure. And sometimes can't get through without shedding a tear or two. (Thank you Shel Silverstein)
There are a lot of books that reflect different times of the year, but one of my favorite books is one that my mother gave to me. It's not a story of me or family history. It's an address and birthday book of our relatives. It's a book of time and love because it's her handwriting. The time it took to transfer all those addresses into one place. The passing down to the next generation. What could be a more perfect gift?
There are lots of ideas for gifts that give throughout the year, are clutter free and will be treasured just because of the thought. It's sounds cliche, but it really is the the fact that whatever the gift, it came fully heartfelt from you.
To your Most Peaceful Self
Oftentimes when we return home for he holidays our families want to give us something. I'm not sure about you, but sometimes those parents and grandparents can be sneaky. You get in your car and there is something in your back seat or trunk. How are you going to argue taking it now?
Most of the time the item is given because they really do want you to have it and it was thoughtful of them to think of you.
So what happens when you don't really want it? Navigating those waters can be tricky. Being gently honest about taking the item usually is the best way to go.
If it is something that just isn't you explain that you are honored that they thought of you, but perhaps it is better to give to someone else because of (insert reason). Validate that you know that item is very special to them and that you want it to be treasured as much as they do.
You might also ask if it is something that they just no longer use or want. If so,. is it something you can donate for them. Or suggest someone else who you know can use it.
It's hard to say no. We don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. If all else fails, take it and you can decide what to do with it later.
To Your Most Peaceful Self
Yesterday I got on our tractor and mulched our leaves in the back yard. It looks pretty good out there. But there are a lot of leaves in the nooks and crannies that are still there because I couldn't reach them with the mower. And guess what? It's making me crazy!
Why? Because of my benchmark of perfection. I compare our yard to my neighbor's yard. Now I have to add here that we have a couple of neighbors that are quite dedicated to their lawns. Their lawns are super lush and green most of the year.. We do not spend as much time and energy on ours. It's a lawn.
Now let's look at the perception
How do you move forward and find your peace? Ask yourself
Peace comes from figuring out what really matters to you. It's where you joyfully spend your time and energy. And if you can't quite get thrilled about having to do something, try to re-frame how you are thinking about it and congratulate yourself for doing it anyway.
To your most peaceful self.
I love stuffing - for Thanksgiving dinner. But stuffing items away just to get them checked off your fall to do list is not the stuffing you should be thinking about. It is exactly now that you should be evaluating what you are storing.
"Every item comes into my house with my permission and I ALLOW IT to stay." - Peter Walsh
Pretty powerful. And pretty scary because it makes one accountable for all your things. So how do you figure out if it really has value to you? Take the one second test. When you look at it, do you have a positive or negative emotional attachment to it? If it's not 100% positive, it goes.
When you don't subtract items, the tendency is to stuff it someplace. There are all sorts of "black holes" in which to store our stuff - closets, garages spare rooms and basement. There is an entire industry wiling to store your stuff for you - for a price of course.
Are you putting things away for next season? or stuffing them (in organized containers)? Enjoy stuffing for dinner. Not in your home.
To your most peaceful self.
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