You're going to get it

Oftentimes when we return home for he holidays our families want to give us something. I'm not sure about you, but sometimes those parents and grandparents can be sneaky.  You get in your car and there is something in your back seat or trunk.  How are you going to argue taking it now? 

Most of the time the item is given because they really do want you to have it and it was thoughtful of them to think of you. 

So what happens when you don't really want it?  Navigating those waters can be tricky.  Being gently honest about taking the item usually is the best way to go. 

If it is something that just isn't you explain that you are honored that they thought of you, but perhaps it is better to give to someone else because of (insert reason).  Validate that you know that item is very special to them and that you want it to be treasured as much as they do. 

You might also ask if it is something that they just no longer use or want.  If so,. is it something you can donate for them.  Or suggest someone else who you know can use it. 

It's hard to say no.  We don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. If all else fails, take it and you can decide what to do with it later.

To Your Most Peaceful Self

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